Jealousy, whether driven by passion or sickness, is something you are never quite sure how to describe; it has always been a source of concern for me. After all, some equate passion with pathology, while others see them as related. Jealousy, which has so often tormented human adventures throughout the ages, is a complex enigma with many different, sometimes contradictory, answers and numerous dead-end questions. Having experienced jealousy in my life, I know its pain, its slaughter, we are talking about a tearing apart, a fire consuming the entrails, internal organs, and a large part of the medical science considers it responsible for serious organic diseases, tumors, and cancers. Nothing corrupts your character or troubles your mind as much as jealousy. One would laugh at the foolishness it leads you to imagine and believe, if it weren’t for the terrible anguish you feel when the tiny seed of jealousy is planted inside you. Where is it planted? In the heart, in the stomach, in the brain? I think it is planted everywhere, in every visible and invisible cell, in the teeth, in every hair, in the nails; it makes you writhe and humiliate yourself. Sometimes, it can become dangerous for you and others. I believe it closely resembles hatred, and when I think of it that way, I say that hatred, as always, punishes you automatically because you hate. If jealousy hurts as much as hatred, then hell is the crime and punishment at the same time.
And what kind of jealousy are we talking about? Primarily romantic jealousy. But also the other type of jealousy, among friends, siblings, the competitive one, which we also call envy, is a great torment, both for the one you envy and even more for yourself, who feels it. "Can it be cured?" my patients ask me, from both sides. From the side of love, that is, from the side of envy, from the one who envies, and from the side of the one who is envied. Does it heal? I don’t know… I think it’s difficult. It also takes a miracle for the psychologist to help. As always, in any kind of therapy. Fortunately, miracles do happen.