“I feel awkward when I have a birthday,” “I want you to start the conversation about my birth family,” “When I break down and act out, I need you even more. Stay close to me,” “I fear you might abandon me too.”

The author, who is also adopted, captures the unspoken needs of adopted children, advising adoptive parents on how to free them from insecurity, the desperate search for their identity, and the fear of another abandonment, offering them:

The opportunity to mourn, first, the loss they experienced, so that they can then accept the love of others.
Honest information about their birth family, no matter how much it may hurt...
The reassurance that, regardless of their choices, they will always be their child.

A companion book for parents and adopted children. A supporter for them, especially in the difficult emotional situations they experience from time to time.

[Excerpt from the text on the back cover of the edition]