However, the issue in raising a child and their subsequent journey through life is not about finding who is to blame, arresting them, and sending them to be judged by the court of conscience. The real matter is for us and our child to be happy, as much as possible, within our means, and to enjoy the role of parenthood as much as we can. Parents are blamed for everything. Or even worse, they have learned to blame themselves, thus depriving themselves of the joy and pleasure of raising their child. They become filled with anxiety. After the first laughs, the initial happiness, and the congratulations, they change as people. They do not enjoy every precious moment spent with this being they brought into the world. "You became a parent," they hear a voice inside them scream. "Oh! Suddenly, you find yourself in your parents' shoes. And now?" Basic rule: CALMNESS!

From the moment we acquire the title of parent, it doesn't mean we've changed. We are the same. And if you don't believe me, stand in front of your mirror to see for yourself. Don't panic! Nothing dramatic has happened. You simply now have more responsibilities. Endless, if I may say so. But these responsibilities can be calmly integrated into your daily routine, without turning your life upside down. BECAUSE BEING A PARENT DOES NOT MEAN LOSING MYSELF. If we forget this, then we have lost the joy of raising our child, the joy of continuing our own existence, the joy of seeing life again through our child's eyes, and learning anew to be excited about everything.