Sexual fantasies: We all have them, but very few of us can understand what they mean. Fantasies sexually excite us, spark our curiosity because they seem inexplicable, and often make us feel ashamed. That’s why we don’t reveal them to our romantic partners or even to our therapists. In this fascinating and provocative book, Dr. Michael J. Bader presents a groundbreaking perspective on sexual desire, allowing us to deeply understand our erotic preferences and, ultimately, to express our sexuality more freely.

"My theory on the causes of sexual arousal is based on my clinical experience as a psychotherapist and psychoanalyst. For patients, it can reveal a new mental landscape to explore. For therapists, it can show a new way to listen and understand the patient when they talk about sex. Therefore, this book is not only aimed at mental health professionals but at all of you who are curious to explore sexuality, your own or others', or who feel unspoken shame about what sexually excites you."