In this compassionate guide, Jerold Kriesman – author of the book I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me – offers a powerful set of tools to help you express yourself, set boundaries, and cultivate healthy communication with a loved one diagnosed with borderline personality disorder (BPD). If you have a loved one with BPD, you need real, proven-effective strategies to help you navigate the intense emotional reactions and conflicts that can arise in everyday interactions and discussions.
People with BPD often feel anger, pain, and hurt from a history of invalidation and disappointment, and their difficulty in regulating emotions can lead to moments of outbursts of anger and confusion for those around them. Written by a psychiatrist with more than 40 years of experience treating BPD, I Hate You, Tell Me You Love Me offers a groundbreaking, compassionate approach to communicating with a loved one with BPD.
The SET method (support, empathy, truth) described in this book is a powerful and simple tool that will enable you to respond honestly to the demands, assurances, and emotions of your loved one, while maintaining appropriate boundaries. Each step builds on the previous one, helping you create a consistent and reliable communication process.
In this book, you will find an overview of BPD and the common communication issues related to the disorder. You will learn how the SET method can tackle these issues. Finally, you will find detailed examples of specific scenarios that can arise when communicating with a loved one with BPD. Remember – validation is not the same as agreement. You can help your loved one feel validated while still maintaining your own boundaries. This essential guide will show you how.
Pages: 176, Dimensions: 15.2x15.2cm
