As a mother, do you feel comfortable with yourself? Do you want to learn how to be the best while staying at home or working as a mom? Babies have very simple needs, yet many parents are overwhelmed by complex advice on how to meet them. In the book How Not to Mess Them Up, leading child psychologist Oliver James argues that children under three don't need training; the important thing is to find the right mindset as a parent. Through extensive interviews and the latest clinical research, James identifies three main types of mothers: the Cuddler, the Organizer, and the Flexible. Describing the advantages and disadvantages of each type, the book shows how to recognize which style suits you best and suggests simple strategies to reconcile your personal goals with your family's needs. Empowering and challenging, Oliver James will help you make the best choices for raising a happy and confident child.