From licensed therapist and popular Instagram relationship expert Vienna Pharaon comes a profound guide to understanding and overcoming family of origin wounds—the root of how we connect with others, ourselves, and the world around us. None of us had a perfect childhood; we all carry behaviors that don't serve us—and may even harm us. But it doesn't have to be this way, says licensed marriage and family therapist Vienna Pharaon. Our past may shape our patterns, but we can change them for the better with the right tools.

In the book THE ORIGINS OF YOU, Pharaon has unlocked a healing process that helps us understand the family of origin—the family and environment we grew up in—and examine what worked (and what didn’t) in that system. Some dysfunctions (or "wounds") in the family of origin will manifest in our adult lives in surprising ways, from challenges at work to interpersonal difficulties. But when we are armed with knowledge about our past, we can rewire our programming to dramatically improve our relationships and our lives.

It doesn’t matter if you’ve been in therapy for decades or if therapy isn’t for you. It doesn’t matter if you have many childhood memories or if you struggle to remember anything. What matters is your willingness to look deep within yourself and your determination to find a new path forward. The book includes guided self-analysis, personal experiences, client stories, frameworks for tough conversations, and work tool for each chapter, and it will teach you how your family can empower or break you—and how you can heal yourself once and for all.