Some kids just haven't read the parenting books. The harder you try, the worse things get. There's a hidden contract at the heart of parenting. It's the idea that if parents do everything right, their kids will be able to do whatever they want. The manuals explain how to make it clear to your children what you want them to do - and how to react when they don't cooperate. With the right incentives and consequences, parents are called to ensure that their kids remain under control. When this doesn't work, parents are advised to be more consistent. But what happens if your child is more consistent than you? There are some children who haven't signed the contract. They don't share the idea. When placed on "The Naughty Step," they stubbornly refuse to stay there. Sticker promises and rewards lead nowhere. If you take away their iPad, they'll say: "Fine, but I'm not going to do that." These are the kids who break the rule. Their parents are left struggling. The more they try to bring their kids under control, the clearer it becomes that they aren't succeeding. The tighter they set the boundaries, the worse their behavior gets. Things can quickly become worse. This practical, illustrated guide is aimed at parents who need something different. It's for those waging battles they didn't know they could fight. It's for families who need a better way of life and who want their children (and themselves) to thrive.